To do IVF or not to do IVF?

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Well, here is a question I never thought I would be thinking of. I always thought that financially it would be so far out of reach that we could never consider it. But now my mom has offered to help with the cost – out of the blue. That is so sweet of her.

The painful thing about IVF or invitro fertilisation is that there is no guarantee – most clinics will say that you have about a 20% chance of success. Those are rotten casino odds right? A 20% chance that you will lose all your money, lose your psychological investment, and have your hopes dashed. oye. And then too, it is usually the last possible resort on this road of trying to conceive a baby. If it fails, it is a resounding signal that you most likely will never have children. What a thought.

Of course, with me turning 39 in 4 months, my time to actually do IVF might also be running out as most clinics have a cut off age after which they will only do it with donor eggs. I want my own eggs. I want a child of the Dear Husband and I. I want our bambinos to have his big head and my (supposed) brains, and our curly hair.

I feel pretty nervous contemplating invitro fertilisation. There is also an increased chance of multiples – not that we would mind. We want twins even though it would be a higher risk pregnancy. But what if we conceive more than two? And why on earth am I worrying about that when I have only ever been able to conceive once in my life?

I guess it is kind of a nervous excitement. Because an avenue that I thought was sure to be closed is now opening. How exciting. It is a sweet and rare feeling on this journey to find an unexpected pathway opening up on the road to becoming parents.

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