Staying positive and hopeful while trying to conceive a baby

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In the past few weeks my hope has disappeared. My focus on the positive has evaporated and my belief that surely we will succeed and get pregnant has become a myth that I keep trying to force myself to believe in.

 

I believe that focusing on trying to conceive has something to do with it. The constant disappointment makes it difficult to maintain a positive hopeful outlook. It also forces you to acknowledge that negative things happen over which you have no control. It forces you to face the fact that you might not succeed in your quest. But the fact is that you might succeed. There is no knowing. 

 

I miss enjoying my life and focusing on all the wonderful things that I do have. I dislike focusing and constantly thinking about all the things that I do not have. And that is what trying to conceive does to you – it focuses you on the fact that you do not have a positive Home Pregnancy Test. And that you do not have a baby. And that you do not have a pregnancy. And, finally, that you do not have success. It focuses you on what you do NOT have.

 

If you are going to continue that journey to motherhood then you must focus on what you DO have. Each time you get your period, you need to focus on the fact that you are menstruating and not menopausal. Each time you ovulate you have to focus on the fact that you can ovulate and that you do still have eggs. Each time you try a new technique or supplement or treatment and it does not work, then you focus on the fact that you have crossed out one more thing that is not helping you toward your goal of having a baby, so that you can move on to others treatments. Whittling down the possible things that might be contributing to your lack of success is a step towards success.

 

Success is a process not an event.

 

 

Each month brings you a step closer to success. This is particularly true if you are taking supplements or herbs or having acupuncture. All these treatments are cumulative so each month you have another month’s worth of possibly successful therapy in your system, increasing your odds of conception. Another months’ worth of bringing your body that much closer towards its healthiest most conception-conducive state.

 

Staying positive through this journey toward motherhood has everything to do with your focus and where you choose place it. It is not an easy choice and sometimes it does not even seem like a choice. But a choice it is. And whenever by default we slip into the negative focus, we must force ourselves back into the positive one. We must keep asking ourselves “What do you choose to focus on?”

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